It’s one of the biggest complaints in America: weight. Women across the country openly and privately condemn themselves for their weight, wonder how they gained so much weight, and desperately try to lose weight. It’s an on-going struggle that for some, has a very dim light at the end of the tunnel.
Many women say they want to lose weight so that they can fit into a bridesmaid dress, a wedding dress, or because they are jealous of their size 2 girlfriends. Other women say they want to lose weight because they feel like they should, someone else is telling them they are overweight, or because their doctor said that they are outside of the “normal” weight range for their height. But all of these reasons are often still not enough to push women to implement a regular exercise routine, healthier eating habits, or improved self-care…
If you’re trying to lose weight to impress someone, what happens when that person is out of your life? If you’re trying to lose weight to look good in wedding pictures, what happens when the wedding is over? If you’re trying to lose weight to show your doctor that you’re healthy, what happens after that last check-up?
The bigger the WHY, the easier the HOW. The bigger the reason WHY you want to lose weight, the easier it will be to lose weight. Similarly, the more EMPOWERED you feel to achieve weight-loss, the more momentum and strength you will have in doing so.
The reasons WHY you want to lose weight need to come from an inner place, from an empowered place. WHY you want to lose weight must come from a sense of self-care, responsibility, and dare I say self-LOVE? If you love yourself, you will do good things for yourself. If you HATE your stomach, flabby arms, or poochy waist, why would you do anything good for these areas? Maybe you’ll do crunches, but it will be because you hate your stomach and want to get rid of it. What if you changed this self-hate into self-love? Because you love your stomach, you want to make it flatter and are willing to do MORE for yourself.
If you value your life, your body, and your happiness, you will treat yourself in a more healthy and fit way. You will be excited to do something good for yourself. You will feel empowered to care for yourself just as you care for a significant other or a child. Through determining the deepest reasons for WHY you want to lose weight, weight loss and self-care become a natural process and one that returns the power and control to YOU instead of to something outside of yourself.
Here are some quick questions you can ask yourself to get to the core of WHY you want to lose weight:
1. How will you feel when you look at yourself in the mirror after you’ve lost weight?
2. What will you see in the mirror after you’ve lost weight?
3. How will you feel empowered and inspired to make other positive changes in your life once you’ve lost weight?
Notice how none of these questions have to do with other people or anything outside of yourself. These questions force you to dig deep to discover WHY you want to lose weight…for yourself.
Stephanie Mansour, CEO of Step It Up with Steph, is a nationally known Body Image & Confidence Coach and Health & Fitness Expert. She appears on local TV stations and privately coaches & trains clients in Chicago. She believes in a sustainable & holistic approach to health & fitness and empowers her clients to improve their confidence and self-esteem to live a happy, healthy, and fit life.